Selling sex in any way will involve a level of
risk, however we want to try to help you keep yourself out of danger as much as
information is given to help increase your awareness of the potential risks and
hazards you might face.
you are attacked or assaulted remember you
are not to blame!
- Call 999 if in danger – even if can’t speak. Put
this on fast dial on phone
- Carry personal alarm - we can provide you with one
free of charge
- Carry mobile phone and ensure its charged
- Be aware of escape routes
- Don’t let ‘punters’ block escape route
- Know the area you are in
- Stay near a busy road
- Shout to people for help if needed and address
people directly e.g. “you in the red coat”
- Be aware that drugs and alcohol can affect your
ability to judge and manage risk
- Tell someone where you are going and wave (or
pretend to) them when you get in a car
- Agree time when you will return and action plan if
- If attacked you have right to report to police, or
you can report this anonymously through Vice Versa or the UKNSWP Ugly Mugs
- Use condoms at all times, including for oral sex.
- Don’t carry a weapon - it could be used against
- Keep money out of sight
- Keep your eye on punters hands always
- Keep at least one arm free at all times
- Don’t take drink, food or drugs from punters
- You decide where to go
- Be willing to refuse ‘punters’ and decide
beforehand what you are and are not willing to do.
- Look for potential weapons in their car /bag / coat
- Don’t go to a flat, even if you know the man –
there may be others there – you may not be able to leave
- Memorise details of where and who, eg shops,
streets, tattoos, accents.
- Report ‘dodgy punters’ to Vice Versa for info
gathering for others – you can also get access to alerts of ‘dodgy punters’
- Beware of punters who are under the influence, as
they may be more unpredictable.
Safety in Own
- It’s always dangerous to tell punters where you
- Don’t leave personal items in view
- Move anything that could be used as a weapon
- Have a plan ready in case a punter attacks
you. Know the escape routes to a
safe place in or outside the building
- Stay nearest the door, never lock the door or
ensure you know how to unlock the door quickly
- Pretend there is someone else in another room
- Use mirrors to always keep an eye on movement of
punters when not in direct sight
- Be clear about the services you are prepared to
provide and your prices
- Get money upfront and put the money somewhere apart
from your other cash
- Always take an alarm into the room with you
- If you get scared or are attacked, try to keep calm
and get out of the room to a safe place as quickly as you can
- If a punter calls you in the morning and wants to
make a booking towards the end of the day and asks how busy you’ve been, be
wary. Tell anybody who asks that
you’ve had a quiet day. You will
be less of a target to rob
- Memorise layout of building for escape routes
- Memorise how many floors up you are
- Look for lights on in nearby houses
- Pay attention to how the door closes and locks and
where key is
- Watch for concealed camera
- Pay attention to property / layout décor so you can
- Have a look around flat, by making an excuse to go
to the toilet
- Always meet for the first time in a public place,
such as the hotel bar, especially if you haven’t been able to speak to him
yourself before going
- If you feel uncertain or have a bad feeling, leave
immediately. Trust your instincts
- Memorise the layout of the hotel and escape routes
from the suite
- Pretend to call someone letting them know you have
arrived, giving the illusion someone knows where you are
- Have an emergency contact saved on speed dial
- Always take an alarm into the room with you
- Ask to use the bathroom; this will give you a
chance to get an idea of the layout
- Note where the phone is, give the room a quick scan
and try to file away details like pictures on the wall, décor, layout,
furniture and any personal belongings the punter has left out, so you can
identify the room if you need to
- If you start to feel scared or are attacked, try to
get to a busy public place as soon as you can
Brothel / Sauna
- Arrange to get to and from flat safely
- Beware of being followed
- atch punter at all times, using mirrors when not
directly in view
- Know who else is in the building and have a safety
plan for when anyone is in danger
- Consider carefully before sending pictures as these
can be edited and re-used.
- Be aware that clients may have recording facilities
on their computer
- Be aware of putting personal details online
- Be aware of privacy settings on social media
- Be aware of facial recognition software to identity
you through social media
Safety in Cars
- Keep your distance from car when approaching it.
- Make punters aware that you are taking registration
- Don’t get in a car if more than one person in it –
check for others low in the back seat.
- In 2-door cars insist on staying in the front.
- Keep window down in car
- Don’t let the car be parked against wall so you
can’t open the door
- Don’t get in a van – you don’t know who’s in the
- Put money given in a different place than other
money so if he tries to take it back he won’t get it all.
- Don’t wear expensive looking jewellery
- Don’t wear long earrings or necklaces that could be
- Remove body piercings so they don’t tear.
- Don’t wear long skirts or coats that could be
grabbed or caught in a car door.
- Don’t wear long scarves that could be used to choke
- Wear shoes you can run in.
- Keep as much clothing on as possible at all times.
- Don’t have sharp nails or jewellery that could tear
forget that any abuse or violence you experience from punters is never your
making contact with clients on-line, you need to screen them.
The following things can be done to
- Check the time it takes for
clients to respond to messages.
- Check for typing errors in
chat – lots of errors can be a sign of being drunk or stoned.
- Consider information being
sent, what’s the tone like? Please/Thank you being used?
- Look through client’s
- Never send a picture of
yourself. Pictures can be misused.
- Arrangements to meet via email can be complicated and clients may not deliver on all that they have
General Online Tips
- Don’t share private
information when using social networks.
- Keep separate emails/Facebook page, etc. Have details specifically for work and don’t use
personal information for work. Keep home and work life separate.
- Review and reset your
privacy settings to make sure you are not revealing more than you intend to.
- Use strong passwords and
change them regularly.
- Pick a username that does
not include any personal information or place name.
- Remember that the people
you meet online may not be who you think they are.
Calls/Visits to Clients
- Always try to speak with
the client yourself so you can suss the client out.
- Check out tone of call – is
the client being polite? How does
the client sound? If it sounds like
client is under the influence, consider not engaging with the call.
- After saying no to a
client, you can block the number so you don’t have to speak to the client
- Don’t attend meeting before
speaking with client.
- Find out exactly what the
client wants before you go out, and make sure you’re comfortable with it.
- Be clear about the cost of
- Ask for a brief description
so you can recognise them.
- If the client sounds drunk
or stoned, consider not taking the job. You have the right to refuse a client.
- Get the client’s room
number and name of the hotel, and arrange to phone the client back. If they are not happy for you to do
that, don’t go, as they might have something to hide.
- Only after you have
confirmed the hotel phone number, phone the client back and arrange to meet.
- If you are meeting at the
client’s home, get the address and the landline number, and then phone
Directory Enquiries to check that the information is correct. If the client doesn’t want to give you
the information, he has something to hide.
- Don’t go on a home visit if
you can’t confirm a landline contact number.
- Tell someone where you are
going and when you expect to be back. Get them to call you if you haven’t checked in, and to notify Police if
they can’t contact you after an agreed length of time.
Visits to hotels or a
client’s home or work
- Pay attention to the area
around the location, i.e. potential points of safety, and escape routes such as
bus routes, busy streets, open shops, pubs, garages and phone boxes.
- Memorise the layout of the
hotel and note escape routes from the bedroom or suite.
- If you are at a client’s
home, memorise the way to the door. You could ask to use the bathroom. On your way, you can get a better idea of the layout.
- If visiting a client’s home
or workplace, check to see if there are lights on in nearby properties or any
signs that neighbours may be home. It’s important to have an idea of how isolated (or not) you are.
- How many cars are parked
outside the property or in the driveway? Are there more than you would expect? It might not be safe if there are.
If you are going to a home,
pay close attention to which way the door opens and locks. If the door gets locked behind you,
note where the key is kept.
- How many floors up are
you? This will affect potential
Ask client to meet you
outside so you can check them out before going inside with them. If you don’t
like the look of them, don’t go with them.
- If visiting a hotel or a
home, pay attention to details in the room(s) such as pictures, decor, layout,
furniture, appliances, and personal effects lying around, so you can positively
identify the room/property.
- Watch out for any cameras
which may be hidden in the room, including on the client’s mobile phone.
- If you are uncertain or
have a bad feeling about the client or the situation, leave immediately.
- You could ask the client to
have a shower and shower with them. This will give you a chance to access the client’s genitalia (for
example, warts) and ensure they are clean.
- Get to know and use a local
reliable taxi company. Keep their
number in your phone.
- If you start to feel
scared, or you are attacked, try to keep yourself and the situation calm and
get to a busy public place as soon as possible.
- Try to leave a small
personal object in the location, such as an earring, bangle, a wrapped condom
(make sure it’s in the wrapper and you know the brand name), a couple of your
hairs or anything that you could positively identify if you decide to report
the incident to the police.
Working from home
- Separate a space for being
with clients if you are working from your home, even if it is just using a
separate cover on your bed and changing the pillows to the opposite end from
where you sleep.
- Move your personal things
out of the way of prying eyes.
- Move anything that could be
used as a weapon against you such as large ornaments or scarves.
- Think about other rooms if
you are working from your home. Some clients may ask to use your bathroom. Decide whether you are OK with this. If you are, move personal things out of
the way before clients arrive. It
is OK to say no.
- Meet the client at a
designated spot, and then walk them to your home so that they do not knock at
neighbour’s house by mistake (although your neighbours may see you walking men
into your home).
- Once inside, take the money
up front and say you are giving this to your boyfriend/friend, and that he is
in the other room. Go and put the
money somewhere safe, and talk out loud so that the client thinks someone else
- Where possible, make sure
you stay nearest to the exit/door, so if you need to get out quickly you can.
- Have a Buddy System – let
someone know when you’re starting work and finishing. Have a plan if you do not make contact.
use the anonymity of the internet to commit crime and many victims of
cyberstalking don’t know the identity of the stalkers. This can increase fear and make
prosecution unlikely. The fact
that cyberstalking doesn’t involve physical contact doesn’t mean it is any less
dangerous than physical stalking. It’s not difficult for an experienced Internet user to find enough of a
person’s personal information (e.g. phone number or place of business) to
establish his or her physical location. The reality is that any type of stalking can lead to a physical attack
if the situation is not properly dealt with as soon as possible.
- Take potential threats
seriously. Very clearly tell that
person to stop, saying something like “Do not contact me in any way in the
future”. Sometimes it is helpful
to copy your “stop” email message to the abuse department of the harasser’s
Internet service provider.
- Do not respond to any
further messages from the harasser and do not have anyone else contact the
harasser on your behalf.
- Keep a log of every
incident, text, email. Building a
paper trail can help to make a successful prosecution more likely. Evidence that may help build a case
includes: copies of threatening letters, items sent to you in the mail,
pictures. Keep a list of names,
dates and times of your contacts with the Police.
- Report to Police.
- Consider getting a
restraining order if you have been physically threatened or feel that you are
in danger. If a restraining order
becomes necessary you should contact a Solicitor or Legal Aid Office.
- Develop a Safety Plan -
remember, even restraining orders do not always prevent stalking from
escalating into violence. Make
sure friends, neighbours and co-workers know about your situation. Show them photos of the stalker. Keep handy the phone number of agencies
that are supporting you. Set up
easy access to money, credit cards, medication, important papers, keys and
other valuables in case you need to leave quickly. Have a safe place in mind that you can go to in an
emergency. Try not to travel
alone. Always vary your
- Carry a mobile phone that
has a camera.
You are not responsible for the bad behaviour of
others, but you do have choices on how you respond to those bad
behaviours! Consider getting
professional counselling and/or seeking help from a support group. You don’t have to go through it alone.