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Safety information

Selling sex in any way will involve a level of risk, however we want to try to help you keep yourself out of danger as much as possible.

The following information is given to help increase your awareness of the potential risks and hazards you might face.

However if you are attacked or assaulted remember you are not to blame!

General Safety

  • Call 999 if in danger – even if can’t speak. Put this on fast dial on phone
  • Carry personal alarm - we can provide you with one free of charge
  • Carry mobile phone and ensure its charged
  • Be aware of escape routes
  • Don’t let ‘punters’ block escape route
  • Know the area you are in
  • Stay near a busy road
  • Shout to people for help if needed and address people directly e.g. “you in the red coat”
  • Be aware that drugs and alcohol can affect your ability to judge and manage risk
  • Tell someone where you are going and wave (or pretend to) them when you get in a car
  • Agree time when you will return and action plan if you don’t
  • If attacked you have right to report to police, or you can report this anonymously through Vice Versa or the UKNSWP Ugly Mugs Programme
  • Use condoms at all times, including for oral sex.
  • Don’t carry a weapon - it could be used against you.
  • Keep money out of sight

Safety with ‘Punters’

  • Keep your eye on punters hands always
  • Keep at least one arm free at all times
  • Don’t take drink, food or drugs from punters
  • You decide where to go
  • Be willing to refuse ‘punters’ and decide beforehand what you are and are not willing to do.
  • Look for potential weapons in their car /bag / coat
  • Don’t go to a flat, even if you know the man – there may be others there – you may not be able to leave
  • Memorise details of where and who, eg shops, streets, tattoos, accents.
  • Report ‘dodgy punters’ to Vice Versa for info gathering for others – you can also get access to alerts of ‘dodgy punters’ from us
  • Beware of punters who are under the influence, as they may be more unpredictable.

Safety in Own Home

  • It’s always dangerous to tell punters where you live
  • Don’t leave personal items in view
  • Move anything that could be used as a weapon
  • Have a plan ready in case a punter attacks you. Know the escape routes to a safe place in or outside the building
  • Stay nearest the door, never lock the door or ensure you know how to unlock the door quickly
  • Pretend there is someone else in another room
  • Use mirrors to always keep an eye on movement of punters when not in direct sight
  • Be clear about the services you are prepared to provide and your prices
  • Get money upfront and put the money somewhere apart from your other cash
  • Always take an alarm into the room with you
  • If you get scared or are attacked, try to keep calm and get out of the room to a safe place as quickly as you can
  • If a punter calls you in the morning and wants to make a booking towards the end of the day and asks how busy you’ve been, be wary. Tell anybody who asks that you’ve had a quiet day. You will be less of a target to rob

Safety In Punters' Homes

  • Memorise layout of building for escape routes
  • Memorise how many floors up you are
  • Look for lights on in nearby houses
  • Pay attention to how the door closes and locks and where key is
  • Watch for concealed camera
  • Pay attention to property / layout décor so you can identify room
  • Have a look around flat, by making an excuse to go to the toilet

Safety In Hotels

  • Always meet for the first time in a public place, such as the hotel bar, especially if you haven’t been able to speak to him yourself before going
  • If you feel uncertain or have a bad feeling, leave immediately. Trust your instincts
  • Memorise the layout of the hotel and escape routes from the suite
  • Pretend to call someone letting them know you have arrived, giving the illusion someone knows where you are
  • Have an emergency contact saved on speed dial (Police)
  • Always take an alarm into the room with you
  • Ask to use the bathroom; this will give you a chance to get an idea of the layout
  • Note where the phone is, give the room a quick scan and try to file away details like pictures on the wall, décor, layout, furniture and any personal belongings the punter has left out, so you can identify the room if you need to
  • If you start to feel scared or are attacked, try to get to a busy public place as soon as you can

Safety in Brothel / Sauna

  • Arrange to get to and from flat safely
  • Beware of being followed
  • atch punter at all times, using mirrors when not directly in view
  • Know who else is in the building and have a safety plan for when anyone is in danger

Safety Online

  • Consider carefully before sending pictures as these can be edited and re-used.
  • Be aware that clients may have recording facilities on their computer
  • Be aware of putting personal details online
  • Be aware of privacy settings on social media
  • Be aware of facial recognition software to identity you through social media

Safety in Cars

  • Keep your distance from car when approaching it.
  • Make punters aware that you are taking registration
  • Don’t get in a car if more than one person in it – check for others low in the back seat.
  • In 2-door cars insist on staying in the front.
  • Keep window down in car
  • Don’t let the car be parked against wall so you can’t open the door
  • Don’t get in a van – you don’t know who’s in the back

Dressing for Safety

  • Put money given in a different place than other money so if he tries to take it back he won’t get it all.
  • Don’t wear expensive looking jewellery
  • Don’t wear long earrings or necklaces that could be grabbed.
  • Remove body piercings so they don’t tear.
  • Don’t wear long skirts or coats that could be grabbed or caught in a car door.
  • Don’t wear long scarves that could be used to choke you.
  • Wear shoes you can run in.
  • Keep as much clothing on as possible at all times.
  • Don’t have sharp nails or jewellery that could tear condoms.

And don’t forget that any abuse or violence you experience from punters is never your fault!

Online Working

When making contact with clients on-line, you need to screen them.

The following things can be done to help screen:

  • Check the time it takes for clients to respond to messages.
  • Check for typing errors in chat – lots of errors can be a sign of being drunk or stoned.
  • Consider information being sent, what’s the tone like? Please/Thank you being used?
  • Look through client’s profile.
  • Never send a picture of yourself. Pictures can be misused.
  • Arrangements to meet via email can be complicated and clients may not deliver on all that they have promised.

General Online Tips

  • Don’t share private information when using social networks.
  • Keep separate emails/Facebook page, etc. Have details specifically for work and don’t use personal information for work. Keep home and work life separate.
  • Review and reset your privacy settings to make sure you are not revealing more than you intend to.
  • Use strong passwords and change them regularly.
  • Pick a username that does not include any personal information or place name.
  • Remember that the people you meet online may not be who you think they are.

Calls/Visits to Clients

  • Always try to speak with the client yourself so you can suss the client out.
  • Check out tone of call – is the client being polite? How does the client sound? If it sounds like client is under the influence, consider not engaging with the call.
  • After saying no to a client, you can block the number so you don’t have to speak to the client again.
  • Don’t attend meeting before speaking with client.
  • Find out exactly what the client wants before you go out, and make sure you’re comfortable with it.
  • Be clear about the cost of the service.
  • Ask for a brief description so you can recognise them.
  • If the client sounds drunk or stoned, consider not taking the job. You have the right to refuse a client.
  • Get the client’s room number and name of the hotel, and arrange to phone the client back. If they are not happy for you to do that, don’t go, as they might have something to hide.
  • Only after you have confirmed the hotel phone number, phone the client back and arrange to meet.
  • If you are meeting at the client’s home, get the address and the landline number, and then phone Directory Enquiries to check that the information is correct. If the client doesn’t want to give you the information, he has something to hide.
  • Don’t go on a home visit if you can’t confirm a landline contact number.
  • Tell someone where you are going and when you expect to be back. Get them to call you if you haven’t checked in, and to notify Police if they can’t contact you after an agreed length of time.

Visits to hotels or a client’s home or work

  • Pay attention to the area around the location, i.e. potential points of safety, and escape routes such as bus routes, busy streets, open shops, pubs, garages and phone boxes.
  • Memorise the layout of the hotel and note escape routes from the bedroom or suite.
  • If you are at a client’s home, memorise the way to the door. You could ask to use the bathroom. On your way, you can get a better idea of the layout.
  • If visiting a client’s home or workplace, check to see if there are lights on in nearby properties or any signs that neighbours may be home. It’s important to have an idea of how isolated (or not) you are.
  • How many cars are parked outside the property or in the driveway? Are there more than you would expect? It might not be safe if there are.
  • If you are going to a home, pay close attention to which way the door opens and locks. If the door gets locked behind you, note where the key is kept.
  • How many floors up are you? This will affect potential escape routes.
  • Ask client to meet you outside so you can check them out before going inside with them. If you don’t like the look of them, don’t go with them.
  • If visiting a hotel or a home, pay attention to details in the room(s) such as pictures, decor, layout, furniture, appliances, and personal effects lying around, so you can positively identify the room/property.
  • Watch out for any cameras which may be hidden in the room, including on the client’s mobile phone.
  • If you are uncertain or have a bad feeling about the client or the situation, leave immediately.
  • You could ask the client to have a shower and shower with them. This will give you a chance to access the client’s genitalia (for example, warts) and ensure they are clean.
  • Get to know and use a local reliable taxi company. Keep their number in your phone.
  • If you start to feel scared, or you are attacked, try to keep yourself and the situation calm and get to a busy public place as soon as possible.
  • Try to leave a small personal object in the location, such as an earring, bangle, a wrapped condom (make sure it’s in the wrapper and you know the brand name), a couple of your hairs or anything that you could positively identify if you decide to report the incident to the police.

Working from home

  • Separate a space for being with clients if you are working from your home, even if it is just using a separate cover on your bed and changing the pillows to the opposite end from where you sleep.
  • Move your personal things out of the way of prying eyes.
  • Move anything that could be used as a weapon against you such as large ornaments or scarves.
  • Think about other rooms if you are working from your home. Some clients may ask to use your bathroom. Decide whether you are OK with this. If you are, move personal things out of the way before clients arrive. It is OK to say no.
  • Meet the client at a designated spot, and then walk them to your home so that they do not knock at neighbour’s house by mistake (although your neighbours may see you walking men into your home).
  • Once inside, take the money up front and say you are giving this to your boyfriend/friend, and that he is in the other room. Go and put the money somewhere safe, and talk out loud so that the client thinks someone else is there.
  • Where possible, make sure you stay nearest to the exit/door, so if you need to get out quickly you can.
  • Have a Buddy System – let someone know when you’re starting work and finishing. Have a plan if you do not make contact.

Cyberstalking

Stalkers use the anonymity of the internet to commit crime and many victims of cyberstalking don’t know the identity of the stalkers. This can increase fear and make prosecution unlikely. The fact that cyberstalking doesn’t involve physical contact doesn’t mean it is any less dangerous than physical stalking. It’s not difficult for an experienced Internet user to find enough of a person’s personal information (e.g. phone number or place of business) to establish his or her physical location. The reality is that any type of stalking can lead to a physical attack if the situation is not properly dealt with as soon as possible.

  • Take potential threats seriously. Very clearly tell that person to stop, saying something like “Do not contact me in any way in the future”. Sometimes it is helpful to copy your “stop” email message to the abuse department of the harasser’s Internet service provider.
  • Do not respond to any further messages from the harasser and do not have anyone else contact the harasser on your behalf.
  • Keep a log of every incident, text, email. Building a paper trail can help to make a successful prosecution more likely. Evidence that may help build a case includes: copies of threatening letters, items sent to you in the mail, pictures. Keep a list of names, dates and times of your contacts with the Police.
  • Report to Police.
  • Consider getting a restraining order if you have been physically threatened or feel that you are in danger. If a restraining order becomes necessary you should contact a Solicitor or Legal Aid Office.
  • Develop a Safety Plan - remember, even restraining orders do not always prevent stalking from escalating into violence. Make sure friends, neighbours and co-workers know about your situation. Show them photos of the stalker. Keep handy the phone number of agencies that are supporting you. Set up easy access to money, credit cards, medication, important papers, keys and other valuables in case you need to leave quickly. Have a safe place in mind that you can go to in an emergency. Try not to travel alone. Always vary your routes.
  • Carry a mobile phone that has a camera.

You are not responsible for the bad behaviour of others, but you do have choices on how you respond to those bad behaviours! Consider getting professional counselling and/or seeking help from a support group. You don’t have to go through it alone.

Useful contacts

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